While out bar hopping with a girlfriend, we ran into her older brother. He’s a guy that I have known many years. A rather a nice looking, tall fella with a thick build. He has a certain ruggedness to him that lets you know he’s the outdoors type. He’s 40 and never been married, still floats around. His luck with relationships has been a little on the “Jerry Springer” side of things.  We can gather that his judgment is not always the best.

We are all laughing and drinking.  You know, those usual things you do at the bar. When I get the lean in and I hear…(in a whisper), “I’d like to change your oil, if you know what I mean!.”

“What the hell!!!?? He’d like to change my oil!!? What, are we now down to being a quick lube~pull in and pull out ….and wahhh lah…..?” For every 100 single women in the U.S. there are 88 unmarried men available, according to the United State Census Bureau. So, does that mean it’s easier to just “service them” and send the women on their way? 61% of the singletons have never said “I DO”, and with that kind of Mentality I suspect the percentage will keep rising.

Are long term relationship a thing of the past?

Is sex just something you do and no longer looked at as being shared with the one you love? Yes I know, you don’t look for meaningful relationships in a bar; but geez, I didn’t think I told anyone I was looking for a “service Tech” either. Nothing like being viewed as a piece of equipment! He’s not the first guy to say something off the wall to me like that, but I just thought I came across as a strong, independent woman that would get Aretha-Franklin-like R-E-S-P-E-C-T. Do most men still respect women? Are there single men out there with morals and respect under the age of 50? Apparently, not so much in my neck of the woods!

So are you wondering what my reply was to the “can I change your oil, if you know what I mean?” Well, being the smart-ass that I am, I said, “Oh geeze,  this engine has a major transmission leak this week and I don’t see it needing a DIPSTICK any time soon, but thanks!!!”

And that’s why I’m still single…..